Team, of all places, Babycenter has a great article about how to make sure your goals are reasonable and you’re focusing on what’s important.
How to Fail-Proof Your New Year’s Resolutions is (duh) actually about setting good new year resolutions that you can actually achieve. But aren’t new year resolutions just a type of goal?
Some of the rules tie together good goal setting practice with other key traits of successful people. This list is fresh. Here’s the excerpt:
1. Know the purpose of your list. (Uncover your core values by asking yourself “What kind of person do I want to be?”
2. Focus on what you already like about yourself and your life, and take it from there.
3. Make sure your goals are intrinsically motivated. (Meaning: Don’t use your life to try to impress other people.)
4. Think about what you want to do, not what you want to have.
5. Keep it fun. (If it’s not, you won’t do it.)
6. Keep it positive. (Language counts. More action, less reaction.)
7. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. (Think small, easily digestible bites, instead.)
8. Read your list to yourself. (How does it make you feel? Intimidated, empowered, challenged?)
9. Include your wildest dreams, and be ready to abandon, or change any items on the list at any time.
My reactions:
#2. You’re always going to be more successful when you focus on maximizing strengths instead of improving weaknesses. When it comes to weaknesses, figure out how to neutralize or mitigate them and be done with it. Why sign up for a goal that’s going to be painful or impossible to achieve? If you’re consistently asked to take on goals that involve fixing a weakness or having to primarily use traits that are weaknesses, then you’re probably in the wrong role. And PS for resolution-setters: I don’t mean we should give up on difficult outcomes like losing weight. But if portion control is a huge weakness, don’t focus your goal on portion control – focus it on lifting weights or cooking whole foods, or cycling more often.
#3. This is a big problem for me. I do like me some extrinsic attention from authority figures. How annoying! This trait does not serve me at all.
#4. This is right in line with some of the best career advice I’ve ever been given
#6. Absolutely. If you focus on eliminating something you don’t like, you’ll still get the outcome you don’t like, because even focusing on something’s absence still keeps the “something” front and center in your conscious and subconscious focus. My boss & I are constantly trying to get our team and partners to define business cases for projects and strategic initiatives in terms of what we will do instead of what we are not. It’s a much better sell.
#7. Oh, I struggle with this every day during our goal setting process! I think we absolutely have bitten off too much. We’re not so good at tightly defining success, and I am weary, weary, weary of trying to boil the ocean.
PS – Gotta credit Free Money Finance for the quote-react format, which he uses all the time. Love it.